A question I hear all the time is: “Where do I even start?”

It's completely understandable. Divorce isn't just one decision. It's dozens of them, arriving at once. Finances, children, the future... Everything feels up in the air, and the pressure to get things right only adds to the fog.

After almost 20 years working as a divorce consultant, I've noticed something consistent: The people who cope best at the start aren't the ones who have all the answers. They are the ones who have a clear way of thinking things through.

That usually means taking a step back before making big decisions.

Getting clear on what actually matters, especially where children are involved. Understanding the full range of options before committing to any one path.

...and, sometimes, asking honestly whether the marriage can be saved before assuming the answer.

Those questions have shaped almost every conversation I've had with clients over the years. They're also what led me to write my book, Divorce Solutions.

I wanted to put everything I've learned into one place. A guide people could come back to when things feel uncertain, or when they need to think something through at 11pm without calling their solicitor.

I'll admit I was genuinely surprised when it recently reached number one on Amazon in the Divorce and Children category. More than that, though, readers have told me it helps them feel more in control during what can otherwise feel like an unmanageable time.

That's exactly what I hoped it would do.

If you think it might be useful, for yourself or someone you know, you can find it here.

And if you'd rather talk things through directly, I'm here. The first conversation is always free.